Here and There with Twin Cities Men
"I’m looking forward to tonight’s [Anger Management] class, number four, and gaining tools to manage my escalations! Sean is wonderful and we have a great group! I’ve already created my time-outs plan! Thank you! – Darryl Sellers, 2025-04-02.
Tom Maher’s Power Parfait Sunday Brunch Dish. I don't measure anything. Here are the ingredients: Grape Nuts cereal / Mini Chocolate chips / Organic Greek Vanilla Bean Yogurt (I get mine at Aldi's) / Black Berries (or any berries of your liking).
I mix the Grape Nuts, Chocolate Chips and the Yogurt. I put an abundance of berries on top and add some more chocolate chips to the top, for esthetic appeal.
- For a thicker parfait, more Grape Nuts/
Chocolate Chips and less Yogurt. - For a creamier parfait, less Grape Nuts/
Chocolate Chips and more Yogurt.
– Tom Maher, 2025-04-29.
Sam Keen, Philosopher of the Men’s Movement, Is Dead at 93. Sam Keen was a philosopher, scholar, and author of life-changing books including Faces of the Enemy: Reflections of the Hostile Imagination (1986), Your Mythic Journey (1990), and his best-seller: Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man (1991). In that book Keen describes a phase of a man’s hero’s journey:
“This isn’t the fun part of the part of the trip. It’s spelunking in Plato’s cave, feeling our way through the illusions we have mistaken for reality, crawling through the drain sewers where the forbidden ‘unmanly’ feelings dwell, confronting the demons and dark shadows that have held us captive from their underground haunts. At this stage of the journey, we must make use of the warrior’s fierceness, courage, and aggression to break through the rigidities of old structures of manhood, and explore the dark and taboo negative emotions that make up the shadow of modern manhood.”
Sam was also a mentor, friend, and colleague. https://menalive.com/mens-groups-sam-keen/ – Jed Diamond, 2025-04-13
What is Positive Masculinity? Is This What a Real Man Looks Like? A Psychiatrist Breaks It Down. UK psychiatrist Dr. Russell Razzaque has posted a video on April15th concerned about the dark side of the so-called “manosphere” popularized by younger men who are disaffected and ignored. His video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jb8IF_AIddM (13:04) description:
“What if everything you’ve been told about “being a man” is completely wrong? In this video, I dive deep into the dark side of the manosphere and explore how toxic male role models are damaging the next generation of men. As a psychiatrist and mindfulness teacher, I’ve seen how young men are being misled into suppressing emotions and glorifying aggression. But there's another path, one built on emotional awareness, compassion, and real strength. I share personal insights and historical examples, from Gandhi to Martin Luther King, to help redefine masculinity. If you've ever questioned the “alpha male” narrative or felt trapped by societal expectations, this video is for you. It’s time to explore healthy masculinity, mindfulness for men, and how to be a real man in today’s world.” – Andy Mickel, 2025-05-17.
Transgender man book, No One Taught Me How to Be a Man, about his masculinity. Local nonfiction: Former Twin Cities resident Shannon T. L. Kearns’ self-help book rethinks manhood. Kearns hopes his self-help book, “No One Taught Me How to Be a Man,” will spark conversation about what manhood means. He says his “big dream is that groups of men will buy it and read it and have conversations and create community around the topics and ideas. https://www.startribune.com/shannon-t-l-kearns-no-one-taught-me-how-to-be-a-man-chris-stedman/601325312
– Chris Hewitt, Minnesota Star Tribune, 2025-04-25.
Why So Many Good Men Struggle with Dating — and What Can Actually Help
If you’re a single man who wants a loving, lasting relationship — but you’re tired of dating, unsure where to look, or quietly wondering if it’s even possible anymore — you’re not alone.
I’ve spent more than 50 years working with men and their families, and I’ve heard countless versions of the same quiet truth: “I want real love… but something’s not working.”
It’s not that these men don’t have something to offer. Quite the opposite. Many are kind, thoughtful, wise, emotionally aware. They’ve lived full lives. They’ve taken risks. Some have been married before. Some have stayed single. Most have done a fair amount of inner work. So, what’s the challenge? Read more at: https://menalive.com/dating-help-for-men/ – Jed Diamond, 2025-05-12.
Dr. Mike Obsatz and Adam Glatzl are holding a 90-minute workshop, where we will explore the evolving definition of masculinity beyond the stereotypical "macho" ideal that has been ingrained in society. Through engaging discussions and activities, we will dive into the eight variations of maleness that offer a broader and more inclusive understanding of manhood. We will also discuss how the imperative to "prove manhood" often overshadows the instinct for survival, leading men to conform to restrictive rules such as being independent, dominant, emotionless, and strong. This workshop is open to everyone regardless of gender identity. Located at Robbinsdale Parkway United Church of Christ, 4200 Lake Rd Ave., Robbinsdale, MN 55422, from 1:30-3pm, on Sunday, June 8th. No cost. Love offering accepted. – Adam Glatzl 2025-05-08