It's an all-too-common scene. One spouse surprises the other with the news that he or she wants a divorce. The effect is devastating, and the surprised spouse can't understand what's happening or why. Statistically speaking, the spouse getting the shattering news is much more likely to be the husband. The utter shock and crushing pain guys feel upon hearing the news is evident in the words they use to describe their emotions: "It felt like a lightning strike", "I was blindsided" and "It was like getting shot down by a Messerschmitt out of the sun -- I didn't even know there was a problem until the cockpit was on fire and I was bleeding." If you're a man in this situation, what can you do? Is your life over? Are you doomed to an existence of misery, regret and self-loathing? If you remember only three words from this article, make sure it's these three: It gets better. If you don't believe me, that's fine. I didn't believe it either. Just keep it as a possibility at the back of your mind.